Love Language: Service

The category of "Service":

a. Being on the same side.
Love can be expressed by conveying to the other that we are for him or her. You must show loyalty and appreciation for your spouse before family and friends by treating him/her with respect, by standing up for him or her, and so on. See Swihart, pp. 59-64.

b. Bringing out the best.
Love can be expressed by seeking to develop the gifts and potential of the other person. We must, without an kind of competition, seek to recognize and use your spouse's abilities. See Swihart, pp. 65-70.

c. Growing together spiritually.
Love can be expressed by studying the Bible and praying together, by "stirring each other up to love and good works". See Wheat, pp. 148-150, "Touching--Spiritually".

d. Changing.
Love can be expressed through a willingness to change attitudes and behavior that annoys or weakens your spouse. There must be an ability to take correction and to be accountable for real concrete changes.

e. Allowing "space".
Love can be expressed by allowing your spouse privacy, either for brief or longer periods, depending on emotional needs. There can be no excuses for shutting one's spouse out of one's life, but different people have different capacities and needs for time alone or outside interests.

Taken from Love & Love Language by Tim Keller;
Ed Wheat, The Love Life.
Judson Swihart, How Do You Say, ‘I Love You’?